Antonia “Toni” Hamlett Irby passed away on Friday, December 17, 2021.  She was married to the late Ben F. Hamlett of Charlotte Court House, VA, for forty-four years.

Toni served as Deputy Commissioner of Revenue for Charlotte County seventeen years prior to her retirement.  She is survived by her niece, Tracy Yardley; nephew, Kevin Yardley; great-niece, Kendra Yonkers; great-nephew, Kraig Yardley; and three of the best friends any human being could possibly have, Cheryl Francis, Carol Hess, and Pepper Garnett.  Toni’s love of animals, the outdoors, and life itself was unparalleled.  She lived life to the fullest her every waking moment.  Toni was known by all to be the toughest most resilient woman they have ever Encountered.

Condolence Messages

  1. Dale and Danny Dillard

    18 December 2021 2 years ago

    Dear ones, we will miss Toni as she was loved by many…she was an outdoor woman who loved riding horses and mules.Toni was a pleasure to be with and we know Heaven is her eternal home…as we enter this Christmas Season…we praise Jesus for Toni and the time we had with her. God bless you.

  2. Edith Goodrow

    18 December 2021 2 years ago

    Had wonderful trails rides together. Happy trails to you!!!

  3. Bernice T. Fears

    19 December 2021 2 years ago

    So sorry for the loss of ‘Toni’ she was a very sweet lady with always a beautiful smile ! she will be missed !!!

  4. Debbie Epperson

    19 December 2021 2 years ago

    Sending our thoughts and prayers. Toni was a unique lady. My sister and I got to visit her while she was in South Boston a couple of years ago while she sat outside soaking up the sun. It was great to see her then.

  5. Lindsie Rexrode

    22 December 2021 2 years ago

    I will miss Toni greatly. She was a very integral part of my childhood and young adult life. The friendship between her and my mother, Marie Rexrode, spanned well over 40 years. We showed horses together, traveled together, and spent a lot of time together. It was troubling and a shame that the three best friends anyone could ask for didn’t bother to contact our family about her passing, but this lovely and wonderful woman is in a better place now and she knows how much we loved her and will miss her. Rest In Peace Toni, we will never forget the immeasurable contributions you made to our lives.

  6. Scarlet Levine

    22 December 2021 2 years ago

    So sad to hear of Toni’s passing. She was an amazing woman, who alongside my mother Marie , taught me everything I know about horses. The countless hours of trail riding and showing her horse Doc will forever be with me and are memories I will cherish forever. Toni was a dear friend to my mom and she was a friend like no other to her. Even though I lived out of country and state most of my adult life, whenever I would come home I would try to go see her. There aren’t many Tonis in this world and heaven gained a great angel. Is there any charities to donate to in lieu of flowers?

  7. Gary and Jeanie

    26 December 2021 2 years ago

    Hey Aubrey, just heard about Toni! So sorry ! A very good time was had with her and Bennie! Loved them both!! They were a traveling party and food truck!

  8. Gary

    26 December 2021 2 years ago

    And almost forgot about the Beagles and rabbits! Man what fun!

  9. Bobbie Jo Bray Phaup

    08 April 2023 1 year ago

    I met Toni and Bennie when I was twelve years old. Having just gotten a horse, and knowing nothing, Toni took me under her wing and mentored me. She taught me so much about horses, joy, gratefulness, and life. She always loved a good ride, whether that was on horseback or in a pickup truck, or chasing beagles on a rabbit hunt. She and Bennie took me to her childhood home in Skaneateles, NY one summer….what an adventure! She took me in one entire summer so that I could take classes at the local community college. Toni and Bennie always treated me as their own. I am forever indebted to them both. I will miss Toni so much but look forward to seeing her again in Heaven.

  10. Leah Massie Lovell

    28 February 2024 4 months ago

    The short time I knew Toni, then a member of the Halifax Saddle Club we rode together many many miles of trails on our mules. I love Toni to death and miss her so bad, I think of her everyday and the fun we had together and the many talks we had. She was taking too early in my opinion.
    She touched a lot of people’s lives in good ways and gave them gifts to take with them through their lives to share with others and enjoy.

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